“People tend to be generous when sharing their nonsense, fear, and ignorance. And while they seem quite eager to feed you their negativity, please remember that sometimes the diet we need to be on is a spiritual and emotional one. Be cautious with what you feed your mind and soul. Fuel yourself with positivity and let that fuel propel you into positive action.”
― Steve Maraboli
My struggle with hiding in my bedroom:
I have a hard time handling situations in which negativity is directed at me by another person. You could say that I’m susceptible to emotional energy of those around me. I’ve lived with a few souls that can’t seem to understand that before my coffee, I can’t hear why they hate the world today or what items, people, places, or things they just never want to see again. Although everyone needs time to vent, it is important to be honest with yourself about when and how much venting you can actually handle in your day.
For myself, the hardest time to stop another person’s negative outlook from invading my emotional state is the morning. I can not conquer your problems before a cup of cold water and hot coffee. Driving to work recently I found myself completely frazzled because in the time it took me to brush my teeth, drink some water, and brew a hot pot, I’d already heard a family member’s struggles with their job, spouse, children, and finances. I LOVE this person and am incredibly grateful for them but have a hard time not bringing their current general unhappiness into my life.
My go-to problem solver is to talk about it; out loud and to the person that isn’t meeting my needs. Sometimes it is hard to hear that just talking about your life tribulations can bring pain to those around you though. My direct approach at warding off energy aggression has failed a few times, and ended in tears twice.
Until recently, my strategy for keeping negative energy from being locked, cocked, and shot directly at me… was to hide. But the hiding, listening for roommates to go upstairs before bolting to the bathroom, isn’t healthy and doesn’t foster happiness in them or me. Instead, I’ve started listening to music through headphones as a prep myself for the day. Using headphones, I’ve successfully avoided frazzled mornings and days started without calm.
Now if I could only figure out the best JUST home from work technique… One day at a time though.
Love and light!